The Ungrateful...

So dear SIL is about 5.5 months along now.  She came down this weekend to buy my Jeep from my husband and I to accommodate her growing family (her used sebring is a POS and unsafe for a new baby she says).  We gave a her a deal - even put new tires on the darn car, because we knew they were needed.  And by new, I mean I literally drove home form the store and parked the car in the garage until she took it.  We sold it to her undervalue.  Prior to her "needs" we hadn't even been discussing a new car for me.  DH had a new Ford we had just bought, plus we had just moved, so it was not in our plans at all.  Once she announced her pregnancy though, DH being the dear brother he is, wanted to help her, since she said the financial picture was bleak.  We could afford a small car payment so I got a small, basic SUV and sold her my loaded Jeep.  Fast forward to this weekend...when she repeatedly said she would never buy a car privately again, it was just too stressful (despite DH's strict instructions on what to do, since he has been in the business for 7+ years - which she totally ignored).  Then I hadn't finished cleaning the car when she arrived - I had vaccuumed it and emptied it a bit each day when I got home, before DH and the twins got home - while still making dinner and walking the dog.  So I finished cleaning it - then she wiped it down and vaccuumed it again (while breaknig my vaccuum), then went home to NY where she complained to her mom (my wonderful MIL) that it wasn't cleaned for her.  Of course she also didn't mention the 2 bags of materniy clothes that MY friends gave her, the giant box of blankets and towels we gave, the almost new pack and play, the tub full of Dr. Brown's bottles and drying racks, the tub of baby clothes and all the toys we gave her.  You know that ones I could have given to charity for a tax write off.  I have no doubt today she will mention to DH what we found out from FIL, that the Jeep needs a new brake booster, which I am sure she will want DH to chip in for. 

You know she told my MIL all this while MIL was chauffering her around to doctor's appointments.  She got MIL to volunteer to drive her while the Jeep was inpsected for NY registration....she told her about the sonogram appointment....she forgot to mention before that she had to go to her oncologist in a totally different part of the state (a completely different county).  My MIL left her house at 10am to meet her for "a doctor's appt" and did not get home until after 5 pm.  Her entire day was shot.  No consideration into if MIL had plans or errands to run.  Oh and the best part...she neglected to mention the pln that she shared with DH and I...that her and her baby daddy were going to buy 4 - yes 4 - car seat bases....for one child.  One for her, one for the baby daddy, one for baby daddy's brothers car, and one for MIL...because if there is an emergecny or the baby is sick, they will have to pick up the baby.  I pointed out that if it was an emergency, then one of them would really want to be the one to pick the baby up.  And if it was sick, one of the "emergency contacts" could swing by their cars and get a base... we made it through 2.5 years with 2 kids and our emergency contact never needed a base or even to pick up our kids.  But what the heck do we know, right?  DH shared the "car seat base" planw ith MIL....she was none too happy. 

Of course, I am leaving out the way she insulted me within being in my house five minutes, or the way she was rude to my friends, and pretty much ignored my kids, who she "loves so much."  But I did get to hear plenty about her baby shower... the one she wants to know nothing about, and that she isn't expecting much.  BS. 

After this weekend, DH swears he is never helping her again...I told him yeah, until next time.  He will help her again, he always does because that is who he is and he loves his family unconditionally.  And I will warn him all over again about how ungrateful he she will be and how hurt he will be... and so the cycle continues.